Tuesday, January 28, 2014

How the quality of voice affects the quality of life.






When the person with a voice disorder is trying to live a (so to speak) normal life, he/she is definitely experiencing some difficulties in communication with others; nevertheless, at their work place and even in their family lives. They are usually very frustrated with their voice which is not, by far, sounding the same as before. They are also not very well understood and are, quite often, being asked several times to repeat or to reiterate what they were trying to say. That makes those people with voice disorders understandably very irritable and overall, very emotional. They feel like they are handicapped (in a manner of speaking), and understandably so.

Some of them are so disillusioned that they carry with them a sign, advising the strangers that they have difficulty to speak. Others who have lost the hope to regain a normal voice are even starting to learn sign language. How sad is that? 

A lot of those people have lost hope with respect of living their normal lives ever again. Some of them are even trying to pretend that everything is per normal and they are claiming that it does not affect their emotions and their everyday living. They are "troopers", of course, but they are still in denial. And finally, there are those who want to fight to the end and, to their credit, are looking for salvation of their vocal problem(s) until they find it.

It does, however, take time, energy, determination and, sometimes, also does require financial obligation. Not all of the voice disorders are completely curable, however, in many cases, if nothing else, the voice condition could be dramatically improved; and thus, the quality of life could be also improved exponentially.  The person gains their confidence back, which helps them to maintain their personal, social and work relationships.

Many years ago, I received the student; a woman in her early thirties, who desperately wanted to meet a future husband and raise a family. Her voice was very weak and she was getting really tired after speaking for only 10 minutes in person, or over the phone. Due to that condition, her confidence was quite shut down and, along with that, her spirit appeared to be pretty low. Nevertheless, her body language was reflecting exactly that.

Her head was always down and she was standing and walking, slouching her back. Given all that, the possibility of attracting “the Man of her dreams” was quite remote. So she embarked on my course. For the first 10 hours, I had to put her through the structure and routine of the voice support, structure, placement and projection. We were reading all kinds of scripts including commercials, theater plays, and just colloquial texts.

Then we did improvisations on what we have read. When we embarked on the next ten hour course, we were learning the everyday speech; teaching her brain to reciprocate the structure on a (so to speak) “automatic pilot”. Before we finished (in total, 20 hours), she went to what’s called a speed dating. By the end of the evening, she hit it off with one of the men there and ended up talking to him until 6:00 a.m. in the morning, sitting together with him in a 24 hour donut shop.

Once I’ve learned that, I knew that mine and her journey was complete. And now, indeed, the sky would be the limit for her. I do not know what happened next, as our course came to the end. I just know that she was not shy or timid anymore and her voice was holding up nicely and for hours on end. My guess would be that she is happily married now and she has completely forgotten that she once had a mild voice disorder, which was greatly affecting her life and preventing her from achieving her live goals. 

So for those still with voice disorders, the best is, hopefully, yet to come.
Just maintain the hope and look for a solution. You never know; It might be just around the corner.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

How the quality of life effects the quality of voice.


Needless to say that lately, especially since the recession kicked in, people became even more stressed out than before opposed to when they had good jobs, decent money to live on, and reasonable family lives. I always said that the voice is the spirit and it does reflect the state of the persons’ being.



When the persons’ livelihood is in jeopardy and his/her world falls to pieces, it is no wonder that their spirit will be very down and, respectively, their voice will start sounding much lower in tone, much more stressed, less announced and with much less clarity. In some cases, the voice gets so laid back that it begins to gradually fall onto the lower part of the throat; and thus begins to sound very dull and somewhat hoarse

Then the person might experience what’s called acid reflux, as the voice is drawn so low, that it evidently meets gastric acid. The person will experience the burning on the back of the vocal cords and sometimes even difficulty of breathing may occur. Needless to say, acid reflux causes a great discomfort in the persons’ life.

All the above described was simply caused by enormous stress, especially for those who have a pre-disposition to the upper and/or lower respiratory disorders, as well as for those with the weaker vocal anatomy, and thus, weaker voices, given to them either by nature or by inheritance. Their world could be easily shaken and so may their health. Their financially disturbed life, (work, marriage, family), causes them emotionally-induced health problems. 

I am lately getting more and more inquiries from people who are diagnosed or had already undergone thyroid surgeries. A lot of them lost their thyroids; some of them lost their voices due to paralyzed vocal cord/cords occurred during the operation, and some of them, unfortunately, even lost their lives. According to the holistic teachings, the thyroid represents suppressed emotions and hurts. As for example, the liver represents suppressed anger.

It is a very well-known fact when one of the spouses dies of cancer of the liver; their marriage may have been very rocky, sometimes throughout their whole lifetime, and their co-existence mostly consisted of everyday fights. So there was no doubt that one or both of them possessed a lot of anger; and, as a result, the weaker one had eventually died of a liver disease. Coming back to the thyroid issue, the throat gets tight and the voice gets stuck; and therefore, it is unable to pass through the thyroid to reach the surface. Understandably, the person starts pushing the voice out and reaches the opposite (in a manner of speaking) "boomerang effect". The voice becomes strained; and thus, it is unable to get "sufficiently projected outward" in order to be heard.

The effected person becomes more frustrated and now angry on a difficult life in general and their dysfunctional voice in particular. So there is a vicious circle where the quality of life directly affects the quality of mood, health and voice. However, please read below, uplift your spirit and recover your voice to be able to speak with ease, sing with adequate technique and recite with power…!

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“We are the champions, my friends,
And we'll keep on fighting 'til the end.
We are the champions.
We are the champions.
No time for losers
'Cause we are the champions of the world”, 

--Queen

Friday, January 3, 2014

You Got a Voice problem… Should you give up altogether or should you continue to look for that Desirable Cure, or would you rather learn how to live with it?


Naturally, since I am in the voice repair business, I have been getting a lot of calls and e-mails from people with various voice problems.

Some of them had those problems for the longest time, (up to 30 years long)!
Nevertheless, the long-time sufferers were pretty much adjusted to their adapted lifestyles, as they tried pretty much everything, nothing worked for them and they learned how to live with it.

Can you blame them?

My answer will be; YES and NO.

No, because they have suffered enough and were unable to find the desirable cure.
Yes, because they probably did not try hard enough, at least those whose voice problems were treatable and at least, partially curable.

Some of them, in my opinion, gave up too fast and too soon.

Not too long ago, the woman from the United States with the diagnosis of vocal cord paralysis inquired about my Non-Surgical/Alternative Voice Repair services. She has been offered an operation via installation of some kind of synthetic device, which by my experience, would not do anything, except paralyzing her vocal cord for good beyond any repair. Obviously, she did not want to take that route and was looking for a natural and alternative solution. 

Needless to say, for the past 2 years, she has been everywhere and anywhere, she has tried all kinds of speech therapy and what not, but evidently, nothing has helped.
Due to her vocal disability, she has lost her business, which required her to speak with the customers and promote her product sales. 

Unfortunately, she even had to declare bankruptcy, and thus lost all of her financial credits. In order to come to Canada, she needed to pay for our services and for the trip expenses. Her family, with the exception of one of her daughters, was entirely against it and wanted her to give up on, so to speak, claiming her life back and wanted her to learn to be and live with her vocal disorder for good.

To this woman’s credit, being of strong European decent, she found a way how to realise her dream and, at least reasonably, obtain some cure to her voice problem.
The vocal paresis per say, is a very nasty voice disorder.
If it has affected only one vocal cord, you could compare it with the person who became a paraplegic and ended up being bound to a wheelchair.
If it has affected both vocal cords, you can compare it to a person who is paralyzed from the neck down.

For the latter, there definitely is no cure.

For the former, there is no cure per say, but there definitely could be a huge improvement with the Vocal Science technique, which will allow not only to work on the actual paralyzed vocal cord to make it flex to whichever degree possible, but also to go around that vocal cord with the help of the healthy one and, as usual, restructure the sound to the facial cavities and coordinate those facial muscles with the abdominal muscles, thus to minimize the use of the vocal anatomy as a whole.
The enunciation, pronunciation and clarity will be significantly improved.
All the impurities from the bottom of the vocal box, such as mucus, gastric acid and what have you, will be eliminated via natural herbal and homeopathic remedies.
The pressure of the sound and especially on the healthy vocal cord, which is compensating and overworking for both vocal cords, will be significantly relieved.
Will the paralyzed vocal cord be cured completely? Probably not.
Will the quality of the voice and its delivery be exponentially improved?
Yes, Absolutely.

The person will gain their communication skills and will not be so shy to speak and reach out, and naturally, the lost confidence will be restored and the quality of life will return and will become better, as the person going through this rough patch became stronger mentally, in spirit, and in health overall.
That type of person deserves all of the respect for not giving up and for the bravery to do something about it.

Way to go!!!

P.S. 

I have to note that I myself have had quite a few health challenges, voice included. I, however, never stopped looking for a cure and did not give up until I found it. Just to make it clearer, my main, lifetime challange, always has been the exess body weight. Now, almost 34 years later, residing in Canada, I finally got the solution, as my overweight condition was really a threat to my life and my livelyhood.
I cannot be happier and enjoy every pound I have lost to date.
Needless to say, with every 5 pounds I lose, 10 pounds of confidence I gain!