Tips and advice for learning how to speak, sing, perform and live the dream of being a professional entertainer (speaker or singer) and performing artist, along with common sense commentary and rants on the state of today's music industry. Written by international master vocal coach, Diana Yampolsky, creator of Vocal Science (TM).
How Problems With Voice and Your Confidence (On Decline) Affects Your Everyday Life…?
More and more inquiries we are getting from people who are experiencing problems with speech. We are, no doubt, living in very trying times, which are much more emotionally and financially challenged!
Due to that and due to other related and unrelated problems, a lot of relationships break up and cause a lot of grief, especially to the female population… These women need a lot of support - mainly emotionally and, evidently, also vocally.
A lot of voice disorders like Muscle Tention dysphonia (MTD) and what’ called spasmodic dysphonia (SD) are often caused by broken-off marriages and other turbulence and tribulations in life in general - related and non-related to their situation at home…
We are here to help these troubled women (and men, of course) holistically and, nonetheless, on every conceivable level. Needless to say, we need to recover and restore those sufferers’ voices, as it is a tool for communication that, once restored, will produce the needed confidence and assertiveness…
Once the above is dealt with, the person of interest becomes much stronger and much louder, no pun intended… From that point, their life (in general) begins to evolve on every level!!
Some time ago, I had written an article profiling two of my clients; one of whom was suffering from MTD and the other from SD.
Please read their stories below:
- My close observations and beliefs. -
For at least a decade, about 90 percent of people have been coming through our doors to conquer not only a voice repair but, as experience shows, first and foremost, to acquire a new and improved lifestyle…
Our Toronto prominent newspaper, The Toronto Star, once said - “It is not for the faint of heart”. And I would add that it is also not for people who will be expecting change without change, so to speak. If those who are seeking help are not willing to open up and tell us their true story, then it would be very difficult to offer them the lifestyle modification - and thus the successful results of their voice problems and issues.
I’ve said it numerous times that the human voice is an expression of the state of one’s being and the identification of who that person really is… The voice on its own is a “tool” for communication and, needless to say, that if that very “tool” is broken, the communication also suffers a breakdown. Through my thorough observations, I could pinpoint that the women between 50 to 60 years of age are affected the most.
By that time and age, their children had been fully grown, while the span of their marriage reached about two and a half to three decades. Some of their children already had been living on their own and became completely independent. So these women had been left with their spouses, in a manner of speaking, one on one…
Then, after the 25 to 30 years of marriage, it is, all of a sudden, becomes completely apparent that they and their spouse are actually complete strangers. And instead of (at that time) trying to provide comfort and care for one another, they end up getting into arguments and fights with each other. Their attention is no longer “distracted” by taking care of their children. So now, for the first time actually, they are able to see each other’s “skeleton” so to speak.
And then, unfortunately, they come to the realization that both of them are “strangers” to each other. Both, being shocked to such a discovery, suddenly understand that if they continue living with each other in such distress, there will be no happy ending to this relationship.
I also previously written about a very important human organ such as the thyroid, which, according to holistic teaching, represents suppressed emotions. Due to that fact, it also tends to carry a lot of hurt - which was induced throughout all of those arguments and fights.
Suddenly (women mainly), they notice that something is going on with their voice as well as with their throat - which starts to feel tight and dry, producing a crackly, raspy and hoarse voice. Some of those women also experience difficulty swallowing and suffer from pain in their necks. At first, they don’t think anything of it, but when their disturbed voice begins gradually progressing to almost a stutter while becoming lower in volume and really breathy-sounding, they realize that it is time to address the problem.
Naturally, by their physician, they had been addressed to an ENT specialist. Some of them had been diagnosed with Muscle Tension Dysphonia, others with Spasmodic Dysphonia. But, believe it or not, some were told (despite the apparent symptoms) that there was nothing wrong with them and, moreover, that it’s all in their head…?
Needless to say that those sufferers’ symptoms were more than apparent; but looks like some doctors, unless they saw any growth on the vocal anatomy - which they would have been more than happy to operate on - declared the “clean bill of health” to those patients who had no idea what was happening with them, why it was happening to them and, let alone, were completely unaware how to deal with it so they could bring their voices back to normal. It would be great if it was that easy…?
By my observations, the majority of causes had been induced by:
Their spouses, their parents (via childhood upbringing)
Their children (who suddenly broke away on their own and never looked back…)
In some cases, by their employment situations (or the lack of the latter)
And by many other negative events (still, mainly domestic) situations.
Once I know the history of what’s going on with that particular person in front of me, with their permission and willingness to get better on every level, I begin to work on identifying all of the possible causes which can be present in each particular case. Once my clients’ eyes are completely “wide open”, they begin to see and examine their situation much more clearly.
We all know that knowledge equals confidence. Once those effected women gradually began to learn what went wrong in their personal and/or professional lives, they, in turn, began to feel much more aware; and thus much more confident while concurrently believing in a new approach and a new modality of certain behaviour. Nonetheless, all of the above would have to be adopted and implemented in their everyday lives.
So those individuals’ healing had begun…
: - To conclude and project forward - :
Once all emotional aspects are addressed, the equation between the healthy spirit and the healthy body (whereas the former and the latter are completely interconnected with a healthy voice) will take a successful “lift-off”.
Their lives have now been officially designed, aimed and launched to their altogether “new planet”; and moreover, to their own “universe” - where the sky will become their limit!
For at least a decade, about 90 percent of people have been coming through our doors to conquer not only a voice repair but, as experience shows, first and foremost, to acquire a new and improved lifestyle… Our Toronto prominent newspaper, TheToronto Star, once said - “It is not for the faint of heart”. And I would add that it is also not for people who will be expecting change without change, so to speak. If those who are seeking help are not willing to open up and tell us their true story, then it would be very difficult to offer them the lifestyle modification -and thus the successful results of their voice problems and issues. I’ve said it numerous times that the human voice is an expression of the state of one’s being and the identification of who that person really is… The voice on its own is a “tool” for communication and, needless to say, that if that very “tool” is broken, the communication also suffers a breakdown. Through my thorough obse…
“Just landed… I had a wonderful, encouraging time! I can not wait to come back. I will definitely be in contact soon!” - Aubrie M ___________________
Aubrie arrived to us last Friday, November the 1st from the USA. Prior to her arrival, we have been in communication with her for a few months, as she had to pay off her 30-hour course and treatment in increments.
We had already been very impressed with Aubrie throughout the process, as she told us that she was working (simultaneously) two jobs - totalling over 70 hours a week to come to us to fix her muscle tension dysphonia disorder; thus claim her life back - and, in our opinion, no doubt, more positive and better quality than before.
Up until Aubrie had arrived to us, we had no idea that she was a young single mom with a young son. For the last three years, her dreams, however, had been completely shattered. Apparently, nobody in her native city, (Pittsburgh) could help Aubrie to rectify her vocal problem. let alone to realize her life…
Wenke L.G. – a sufferer of the vocal cord papillomavirus. Wenke L.G. from Birmingham, Solihull UK, met me in my hotel for a two and a half-hour introductory/exploratory session. Below is her feedback after the session was rendered and she and I proceeded to Camden Lock Market for an Afternoon Tea treat:
“My voice feels a bit ‘Tired’ but a few people have said it sounds better, so I’m assuming the tired feeling just comes from, obviously, at this stage, having to work the mouth muscles harder to ‘smile and bite’; but it produces a clearer voice. So all good.”
Wenke (Left) - Diana (Right)
Stay tuned, as Wenke told us that she wants to send us more in-depth feedback via the next e-mail.
We will bring it to your attention when it reaches us.
Charlotte W – a sufferer of voice loss due to administered (unrelated) surgery Performance.
Charlotte W. from South London UK had undergone serious and very long transplant surgery. She was intub…