Tuesday, April 10, 2018
For The Love of Voice and… Relationships!! - Vocal Science…
The answer is, while the voice is getting healthier and thus stronger, the confidence of the sufferer also becomes stronger. A lot of voice repair cases are emotionally induced and a lot of them are also caused by (supposed-to-be) the closest people they are related to.
How ironic - you may wonder…
On this note, let me tell you my own story: In 1989/1990, my own voice suddenly and, I thought, without any reason, seized.
Naturally, not knowing then what I know now, I was really puzzled as to why something like that would happen to me out of all people?
I knew that I always was promoting a healthy voice; and thus, could not attribute its failure to poor vocal technique, or anything like that.
After long suffering an investigation how to deal with it (via trial and error), I realized that my very unsuccessful and emotionally abusive marriage was actually the prime cause of it.
Given all of the above I finally got introduced to, and educated in, the holistic approach to the human body.
And, of course, I added to the equation of the latter my already quite extensive knowledge about the voice.
My thyroid had locked on me. In the holistic teaching, the thyroid represents suppressed emotions; and thus, as a consequence, the voice is unable to get through the vocal box and out on the surface in order to produce a sound.
I healed my vocal anatomy with the natural herbs and remedies; and then, of course, applied my already-thriving voice/vocal technique which, in the later days, was named the Vocal Science Method, and then in 2002, it earned its trademark with the Government of Canada.
Interestingly enough that my own relationship with my ex-husband, from that point on, started improving exponentially…?
How so, you may ask?
It took me some time to think about it and I came to the conclusion that the abusive man who I was married to was actually a very weak man.
He was pushing his superiority complex on me, while concurrently creating my inferiority complex. So my spirit was shut down and my stress-level was rising exponentially.
With the latter, my voice had become compromised.
When I regained my voice via the use of my technique and the application of the natural herbal (and some homeopathic) remedies, my confidence was reestablished - I became stronger and “got back on the hoarse”.
Once my “beloved” ex-husband witnessed my newly-found strength, he suddenly became very attentive and even loving again…
However, me by nature, possessing a very analytical mind, had already then the understanding that the men like him are only good when their women are strong and vibrant.
So, God forbid, that the woman they are married to will fall ill or get in an accident, they will be first to leave her and never offer a helping hand.
By the way, presently, I have been working with two women who have almost identical stories as mine.
Both ended up with voice repairs, primarily because of their situations with their husbands.
I predicted for both of them that once their voices will become healthier and stronger, their confidence will be regained and their hearts and souls will be somewhat mended.
On that premise, their spouses will run right back to them and even will become (one more time again) romantic, just like before when they were dating them…
However, I also warned them that this effect will only last until the next breakdown (not with voice) but, God forbid, on any other level and with anything else.
Unfortunately, I know it first hand via my own experience and over 43 years of teaching and consulting thousands upon thousands of people.
It may sound negative to you, but with such awareness, it is better to be safe then sorry, shall we say.
However, I wish all of my clients, and all of my potential clients, to enjoy their relationships while they last; but at the same time, I advise everyone to keep their guard up and, needless to say, look after yourself - your heart, your spirit (needless to say, your voice) and your health overall!
My wish for you:
Be good, be healthy and be well!